I'm so sorry you and they are struggling with this right now. As others have pointed out, emotional disabilities and 'other health impairments' are qualifiers for services. It's useful to send supporting diagnostic documents when you make your request as well. They have to at least hear you out and consider the options. If you request an evaluation from the school, they are required to act. But if I hadn't done that, my son would not have gotten any services because his grades were fine. It's a total pain, and I feel like 'that parent' much of the time. If my kids mention struggling in any way, I email the teacher.

In your shoes, I would be emailing the teacher weekly asking for behavior reports and sharing what you're seeing at home. It stinks, but nothing will happen unless you create some noise and a paper trail. I can't speak to which document would best serve your childrens' needs because so much depends on the school, but I can say that it will take a lot of heavy lifting and persistence from you. The teacher this year has listened to me and so far she’s having less trouble. I’ve been told by one teacher that she will run her class how she sees fit and she was only telling me how he behaved that particular day so I’d know why his work wasn’t done, not bc she needed my input. They discipline them the way they do everyone else and that typically doesn’t work for them.

I tell teachers this every year and they don’t take me seriously. I need it in this written form where there is accountability. Is that even something I can ask for if I ever get to that point. If they get too many chances they escalate much more. Honestly, the only requirement/accommodation I’d ask for, is that they get an immediate consequence when starting the defiant behavior. She has been trying to gather enough evidence that behavior is interfering with learning, but so far, she does not think it’s enough for an IEP. She has seen the ODD in the afternoon before they get their afternoon dose of medication. The teacher thinks, based on what I told them before school started, that they need it. The special education person at the school said I can request it, but she KNOWS they will not qualify even for testing for eligibility. I’ve tried researching the web and I just feel lost.Īny advice or direction to a place I can learn what I need to know. She is trying to help me, but they are making acceptable grades so it’s hard to say their behavior is interfering with learning. However, I feel I need a plan that will follow them when they don’t have this teacher anymore.

She’s not giving them chance after chance. So I pushed more, they have a teacher that is actually taking it seriously. I tried to request IEP again and was told the same thing, grades are fine, not eligible, end of school year.

By the last month of the school year, one of them was so disruptive, she couldn’t keep him in the classroom. Parent teacher call I find out that they would do their work/cooperate depending on “what kind of mood they were in” and the teacher didn’t think it was “worth the fight” so she let a lot go from what I understand. I didn’t hear much from the teachers so I thought things were fine. Last school year, which was hard on everyone bc of covid, was a disaster. I requested IEP in first grade and was told they didn’t need it bc grades were good. We’ve had behavior issues in school from day one. I have 9 year old twin boys, adopted from foster care.

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